tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post3939466594576157042..comments2023-10-22T05:22:06.766-07:00Comments on Gennifer Albin - Author: This is what slut shaming looks likeAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01409715190075023845noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-46079311925512935392013-09-18T13:52:49.757-07:002013-09-18T13:52:49.757-07:00Ah, your attitude is so refreshing, Gennifer. Mrs....Ah, your attitude is so refreshing, Gennifer. Mrs. Hall's post made me very uneasy-the whole tone was very OTT, patronising and demeaning towards young girls and just made her come across as very snobby and judgy. I understand her views about nudity on social media and it's up to her how she parents her sons, but I don't think she has any right to tell other people how they ought to behave. She makes it seem like the onus is on young girls to watch what they expose boys to, instead of giving her sons any responsibility for their thoughts/behaviour. <br /><br />I really hate this double standard and I see it everywhere at the moment. A woman only has to admit that -shock, horror- she enjoys sex, and people automatically brand her as someone of 'loose morals'. Yet it's expected of men to 'play the field'(I don't think it's fair that men to get ridiculed for being inexperienced either). I've also noticed how female bodies are thought of as somehow more sexual than male bodies-men can get their chest, legs and abs out without anyone thinking it's 'rude'. A woman flashing such flesh is called all sorts of names. <br /><br />I was lucky in that my mum has always had a pretty liberal parenting style and I didn't have any rules about dating. She trusted me to make good decisions (or to make bad ones and learn from them) and stressed that I could tell her anything. But to be honest we rarely talked about it-because sex wasn't a taboo or forbidden topic, I wasn't particularly excited to rush out and do it- in fact I always knew I wanted to wait until I fell in love-but that was my own choice, not something anyone forced on to me. I'm very grateful to my mum for letting me choose for myself.<br /><br />I really don't get why there is so much nosiness and interfering with other people's sexuality-it's no one else's business but your own!Anstice Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06659015918272722407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-61223212199196384792013-09-06T17:13:54.012-07:002013-09-06T17:13:54.012-07:00A fabulous post!!
Loved this -> I'm a girl...A fabulous post!!<br /><br />Loved this -> I'm a girl, but more importantly, I am a person. I am complex. I am a walking mass of emotions, ambitions, opinions, and skills. I am a work in progress. And I don't need you to fix me.Obsession with Bookshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01866538237890994901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-87260961680523282012013-09-06T14:14:13.757-07:002013-09-06T14:14:13.757-07:00I want this shirt for myself AND my daughter!I want this shirt for myself AND my daughter!Jessa Russo https://www.blogger.com/profile/07061996967428020722noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-42658333033109786012013-09-06T08:21:56.869-07:002013-09-06T08:21:56.869-07:00Seconded on the tshirt!
Really fantastic post, i...Seconded on the tshirt! <br /><br />Really fantastic post, its all things I'd want to say but wouldn't be able to articulate anywhere near as well.meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12693795563337053218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-33240134996110470302013-09-05T20:15:18.235-07:002013-09-05T20:15:18.235-07:00This post rocks. So true. I'll take a shirt pl...This post rocks. So true. I'll take a shirt please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-19649379860052716762013-09-05T19:15:06.337-07:002013-09-05T19:15:06.337-07:00I really enjoyed reading this post. Also, I think ...I really enjoyed reading this post. Also, I think its often women shaming each other that does the most damage.Mac Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05172472976317522336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-81731132820231043742013-09-05T18:55:20.548-07:002013-09-05T18:55:20.548-07:00I adore this post. You hit it right on the head.
I...I adore this post. You hit it right on the head.<br />I certainly have committed some slut shaming in my time and now feel very guilty for judging other women merely by their appearance or their actions and not as living, breathing people. It's something I even have to curb occasionally now. But despite this past (and sometimes present behavior) I remember a time in college where our school newspaper posted an op-ed written by a young woman about how other young women needed to start dressing more conservatively so as not to lead men into temptation (it was a Christian college and some people were very conservative. I, however, came out of that college experience much more liberal than I had been going on). For some reason this article really infuriated me. How dare this person blame other women for "causing men to lust"? Even certain sections of the Bible refuted her accusations (not all of them, but some pretty important ones where Jesus tells his audience "And if your eye causes you to sin, tear it out. It is better for you to enter the kingdom of God with one eye than with two eyes to be thrown into hell" [Mark 9:47]. Jesus didn't put the onus for the sin on the person being lusted after; he put it on the person doing the sinning). <br />So I decided to write my own response to her op-ed and say just that. It was gratifying, especially when several of my friends complemented the piece after it was published (my shining glory in my college career. Not really, but it was pretty cool to see my name in print). It opened up a dialogue with at least me and my friends about how women often get blamed for guys' bad behavior (or perfectly natural behavior if you're not at a conservative Christian college). I hope it opened up a dialogue for others at my school, including the woman who wrote the original op-ed.<br />Anyway, rant done. Your blog post is awesome (and the other comments are as well).Jenny Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15936856293121991263noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-38995191456341128202013-09-05T15:31:20.698-07:002013-09-05T15:31:20.698-07:00I cannot begin to tell you how much this post mean...I cannot begin to tell you how much this post means to womankind.<br /><br />After reading Mrs. Hall's blog, I'm starting to wonder if maybe I'm a man. Ya know, since I'm doing exactly as any man is expected to, which is: be a person, be different, be okay with my sexuality. I mean, that's the message her blog is insinuating, right? That there are no real standards for men, because if they do screw up, it's because of a woman being too manly (aka sexual). Only temptress women are causes of "bad" sexual behavior and/or naughty thoughts, which is why Mrs. Hall believes women should be instructed on how to act, and that they should do what she believes is expected of them.<br /><br />Hey, women, remember this:<br /><br />No tank tops, no pouty lips, no makeup, no taking photos in INTERIOR SPACES (god forbid).<br /><br />Come on, you sluts! That's just tooooooo sexualized for her precious baby boys. How will they ever keep it in their pants? They'll never leave the house with girls taking those kinds of photos because they'll be too busy spanking it while scrolling through Facebook. Jeez, why doesn't Mrs. Hall just teach her boys how to be a monk. Or, better yet, teach them respect and tolerance.<br /><br />Then again, Mrs. Hall's blog suggests women shouldn't be unique, stylish, or sexually free. Because, hey, that's a man's prerogative (enter in her family half-naked at the beach). Am I right, or am I right? (Cue vomit-inducing noises.)<br /><br />Therefore, regardless of my awesome vagina, I am man. Here me roar.Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09873684520544119860noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-25437091967687693512013-09-05T15:01:27.221-07:002013-09-05T15:01:27.221-07:00Bravo. I have so many feels about this that I'...Bravo. I have so many feels about this that I'm just going to leave it at that.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05874528798069613694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-44662570390758732742013-09-05T14:45:04.284-07:002013-09-05T14:45:04.284-07:00Yes! Perfect response. It's like you articulat...Yes! Perfect response. It's like you articulated what I thought.Robyn Lucashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07589972339101157288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-7650366855238034532013-09-05T14:19:14.725-07:002013-09-05T14:19:14.725-07:00Amazing amazing amazing post! *stands up and appla...Amazing amazing amazing post! *stands up and applauds*<br />I don't really have much to add to what you've already said and I don't think I could say it any better, so just THANK YOU!Pilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05235628363081574896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-16018995397787494922013-09-05T13:57:04.748-07:002013-09-05T13:57:04.748-07:00That last paragraph is amazing. I would like it on...That last paragraph is amazing. I would like it on a tank top, please. One that will show my bra straps, which might not match my shirt (oh no) and will show off most of what I have in the way of cleavage. I approve of every bit of this. It's the hypocrisy that really makes all of this horrible. Men can be topless everywhere and it's appropriate, but women are slutty if a bra strap is visible? WHAT? For real? And do not get me started on the fact that underwear being visible in public is a huge taboo, but bathing suits, which are underwear made out of a different material are totally acceptable. <br /><br />When I started college, I had a lot of people make assumptions about be because of the way I dressed: low cut shirts, visible bra straps with tank tops, short skirts. I got judged for that, and even started dressing more conservatively, which seriously makes me mad NOW. Because my short skirts? They said nothing about me as a person. I might have worn the "sluttiest" clothes on my freshman year hall, but I was then and remain to this day the least sexually active. There's not a direct correlation between the clothes someone wears and their sexual proclivities. Also, why is sex wrong for women but not for men? This would not be puzzling if we held up homosexuality as the ideal, but we do. How are the straight men having sex if the women are acting the way they wish them to? In other words, our culture is a hot mess and we need to stop being so close-minded and illogical. Sex for everyone, when and if they want it, with no side helping of shame or double standards, please.<br /><br />I wish I had a powerful point to end on like you do. Alas, I do not, so I will just applaud you again.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00370486039531015541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-31575893596985162992013-09-05T13:53:27.318-07:002013-09-05T13:53:27.318-07:00Love this post, Gen!Love this post, Gen!Steph Sinclairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10900121058770351187noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-39704672983481304022013-09-05T13:51:09.030-07:002013-09-05T13:51:09.030-07:00BAM! You said it. I saw that post the other day an...BAM! You said it. I saw that post the other day and I was disgusted. I am proud of who I am and that includes being proud of my sexuality and my body. All women should be. If men can do it, why can't we?Kara_Malinczakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07559498182018910285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-83539941245645393192013-09-05T13:49:30.802-07:002013-09-05T13:49:30.802-07:00Best. Post. Ever. Best. Post. Ever. LisaFicTalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05491300868403687182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-7517614696000840372013-09-05T13:44:08.147-07:002013-09-05T13:44:08.147-07:00Yes, Eddie. Yes. Yes. Yes. Also I will wear that s...Yes, Eddie. Yes. Yes. Yes. Also I will wear that shirt.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01409715190075023845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-33245571533193580732013-09-05T13:37:37.265-07:002013-09-05T13:37:37.265-07:00Oorah and w00t Oorah and w00t Cylithria Duboishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01930567430307811554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-61313440214239119422013-09-05T13:35:19.149-07:002013-09-05T13:35:19.149-07:00Fabulous! Thanks for this.
How quick we are as a ...Fabulous! Thanks for this.<br /><br />How quick we are as a society to claim that girls need fixed and boys will be boys. Girls must be controlled and boys cannot be contained. This is damaging to BOTH boys and girls. We need to cut it out!<br /><br />I want this on a t-shirt: <br />I am a person.<br />I am complex.<br />I am a walking mass of emotions, ambitions, opinions, and skills.<br />I am a work in progress.<br />...And I don't need you to fix me.Eddie Louisehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07653651673354167341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-53220719421710426892013-09-05T13:29:33.348-07:002013-09-05T13:29:33.348-07:00LOVE <3LOVE <3 Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14572093191377103465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4392515043585201041.post-59644079046922781752013-09-05T13:12:15.470-07:002013-09-05T13:12:15.470-07:00Amen, and also--you are awesome. <3Amen, and also--you are awesome. <3Debra Drizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15750912933889904216noreply@blogger.com